What may be selfish to some, the all me attitude isn't me. I'm the last person to think of herself. I'd much rather know how everyone else is feeling and doing.
You're on a journey, but are you truly living through it and doing what's best for you, not what other's want you to do. We have limits and we certainly have breaking points
My mother didn't like it one bit yet had no control either since I was a preteen learning growing into a teenager. I had severe acne, quite overweight for my shape and size and developing. I developed earlier than most girls which caused self esteem issues. I didn't love myself, I lacked in self confidence. I didn't identify myself as beautiful until much later in life. I learned on my own to accept myself as different. I bloomed and once I did there were a few guys who took interest in me regardless how I looked on the outside making me feel beautiful.